Amazing news
We just got some amazing news here at Impression Engineers and wanted to share it with you, as you have all been so supportive and encouraging as we take our message of “Choose your business and life,” to a larger audience.
I will be a guest along with Megan McKenzie on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/bookyourselfsolid this Friday, October 31st at 11am Pacific (2pm Eastern.) It is a Q and A format and we will stream live, so nothing like jumping into radio both feet first!
If you would like to listen in, or even call in and put me or the other panelists on the hotseat, this Friday is your time. To listen in, go to http://wwwblogtalkradio.com/bookyourselfsolid. When the show is live, there is a flashing, orange “Click to Listen” button. Just turn up your speakers!
If you want to ask a question or comment via live chat or call in, it will be necessary to sign-in to Blog Talk Radio. It is easy and free to join. On the home page of http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ in the top-middle above the Nav bar is the small link to register.
If you can’t be there live and grill me Friday, the show is made into a podcast feed that will allow you to listen when it works for you.
Thanks again for all your support and good thoughts as we share with others the abundance we all have to offer each other. Talk to you again at our regular time on Thursday.
Enjoy the adventure
To Success! To Life!
Sharon
R U Late 4 Life?
Late for life?
Seems as if everything is going faster and faster today. Many don’t even have the time to write a complete sentence anymore… What’s your relationship with time?
Sometimes, we get going so fast towards what we want, that we forget about the most important parts of our life, our loved ones. It is easy to fall into saying, “just as soon as…” and know that our loved ones will understand. A passionate life doesn’t work that way. It is the combination—the balance—of our work and our person.
Work-life balance is not an oxymoron. Demands on your time change as your family, purposes and work life change. Balance doesn’t mean doing everything. It means the continually rearrangement of priorities and appropriate boundaries. Be firm with what you want and can and cannot do. Only you can create harmony and happiness in your life.
Research has found that most happy people have strong ties to family and friends and that happy people live about nine years longer than unhappy people. Make time for friendships.
Have a great day in whatever your adventure
To Success! To Life!
p.s. Thank you so much for the great response to Life’s Short. Live Passionately. If you haven’t grabbed your free excerpt yet it’s available on the IE site at http://www.impressionengineers.com/excerpt/
All the lessons we learn
Big WOO! HOO! Everybody!
The book “Life’s Short. Live Passionately.” is finally in my hot little hands! Amazing. I’ve been working on it so long, I began to think it would never be complete… always many lessons learned when you do anything—from this project I learned (or re-learned):
- Even if you plan that it will take longer than you think, it always takes longer than you planned and think…
- When you see the finish line at about 98% finished, you really are only about 50% done.
- There is no perfection. No matter how perfect it is when it leaves your hands, there will always be something you will want to add, delete or change…
I’ve already taken the plunge into my next book, about better communication in the workplace. This time, I think I will try the aim and fire approach. Planning is important, and patience is a virtue but living life is the perfect teacher. You’ll probably read how that idea of plan less is going soon…
So, “Life’s Short. Live Passionately.” is finally ready. It’s an easy read. No “chapter” is over 2 pages long… since you already read our newsletters you probably know I like to write short and to the heart of the matter… Life’s too short to spend your time turning too many pages for the author to get to the point…
In “Life’s Short. Live Passionately.” you’ll discover life lessons that make a difference.
- Understand the dynamics of why fear stops people.
- The presuppositions of Living Passionately and how to embrace them.
- The ways that get to the heart of the matter faster, easier and without blame!
- The 4 most important steps to take when setting goals. Set goals that will succeed.
- The 5 keys to know when enough is enough.
- The simple steps to not be disappointed again. And much, much more…
Whether you are 10 years old or 100, this book will help you create your life, your way.
An excerpt is available at Excerpt
As a little official launch celebration and a special thank you to you—I’ve got it at a special super secret price for the next 5 days. It’s almost a give away, so let’s not let Adam know that I put it on sale… If you are interested, grab a copy right now.
Have a great day in whatever your adventure,
To Success! To Life!
Sharon
Does it really matter?
It seems to me these days that most people are complaining about something… usually something that is really none of their business…. I’m not here to talk politics, but does it really matter if someone’s hair is out-of-style—out-of-style according to whom??? Maybe it’s coming back in style, does it really matter?
I have an acquaintance that complains about everything, the server’s voice tone is not friendly enough, the soup is too hot… nothing is ever okay – except of course – he’s perfect, if you ask him. It’s the mindset that matters. If a mindset is in the “something is always wrong” mode, or "everybody’s wrong but me" mode, than that is what they will always find.
Mindset is contagious, so be careful. If you hang out with nay-sayers, you may find yourself being negative too. What you allow your mind to dwell on you get more of.
Reward the positive
Instead of focusing on the negative, build the habit of rewarding the positive. At the end of the day write down your successes and the successes of those you love and care about.
Keep a Success or Gratitude Journal. It is often easy to forget the positive and dwell on the negative. Typically we focus on the negative because it needs fixing. The positive does not need the extra focus, so it is easy to dismiss and move onto the next “problem.”
Make a habit of focusing on the positive—there is positive in every situation. You can also use your Journal to clearly defined what is wanted, things that the grateful mind can come to expect, such as " increase cash flow by creating more referral business." Gratitude, praise and appreciation for our self and others works miracles.
“Reward the negative with attention, you get more negative. Reward the positive with attention, you get more positive.” ~Source unknown, but greatly appreciated~
Visit livepassionatelysociety.com for your Success and Gratitude Journal and Success Sheets
Have a great day in whatever your adventure
To Success! To Life!
Changing the Language
A good friend, Gary Phillips, recently posted the following article on his blog. I found it so interesting I contacted Gary to share it with all our readers… Gary is a Safety Professional, the article is targeted to his clients, I’m sure you will see that his knowledge expands far beyond safety in the workplace.
Changing the Language of Safety –
by guest author Gary Phillips
Author of The Art of Safety
Presuppositions
One critical linguistic structure, related to the concept that the brain is literal and people’s attention will go where directed, is the phenomenon of presuppositions. These are utterances, or phrases, that carry with them something that is already presupposed by that phrase. If the receiver does not challenge the utterance immediately, it generally means that, at the unconscious level, they have “bought into” the presupposition.
Here is 1 example of a presupposition.
“Can I help you?” - When someone walks into your office and you say, “How can I help you?” it presupposes you’re the helper and you’re in charge of the helping process. Then, who is helpless? The other person is.
As soon as they, in response, utter a single syllable, without challenging the presupposition, they’ve unconsciously “bought into” this relationship of dependency. This only reinforces traditional approaches that the leader is responsible for safety behavior, not the worker. “How can I help you?” creates dependant people. Avoid creating dependant people.
Avoid asking, “How can I help you?” A better, neutral question is “What’s up”, no presupposition implied. Dealing with this presupposition has broad applicability, well beyond safety applications. The Art of Safety also expands on why verbally presented information further creates dependency, while visual information empowers.
Even the most practiced leaders and professionals are often unaware of how they come across both verbally and non-verbally, and how they create the reality of the workplace by shaping how it’s experienced.
Small improvements in communication techniques pay big dividends in maintaining positive relationships and error-free performance.
Have a great day in whatever your adventure,
To Success! To Life!
Sharon
Gary is a Safety Professional, consultant and trainer with decades of experience applying advanced communication skills to the fields of Occupational Safety and Leadership Development. From his home in the cottage country of Northern Ontario he offers services worldwide through NW Training and Development and is a widely sought after speaker and trainer. Gary Phillips is available for conference and workshop presentations. Visit www.artofsafety.net or call (888) 622-9653.
Not always the Intention…
Last week, I attended an advanced Presentation Workshop. We were to give a presentation while the group acted as our audience. At times, "the audience" asked questions. Some of the questions surprised me. I did not think they had a specific relationship to my presentation. I realized, after reflection, the audience received a different central point than what I intended.
Basic ABCs of Intentions: ambiguity, beliefs, and contradictions
Regardless of our intention, there may be more than one answer. Think of all those "Yeah, but…" and "What if…" times. Ambiguity, beliefs, and contradictions exist everywhere, in spite of our desire for clarity.
They can be caused by thoughts and feelings, unresolved emotions, ignored life lessons, outdated information, or by external forces wanting us to not change, change, or believe they way they do.
The intention for my presentation was: To give a concise, ten-minute presentation on my topic. However clear and positive my intention was to me, the presentation ran smack into several well-entrenched beliefs of some audience members…
Attention to Intention
Premise: We cannot change anyone but ourselves. No matter how positive our intention, it may be misunderstood. There is an NLP saying that goes: "The response you got is the message you sent." Meaning, it isn’t your intention behind what you said that matters, it is how it is received that matters…
To reduce ambiguity, beliefs and contradictions consider that an intention must have three things for it to possibly succeed. They are:
- Take some time to clear about what you want. Make sure to state it in the positive. A statement of what you want, not what you don’t want. The unconscious mind does not recognize negatives. Example, as I tell you not to think of the pink elephant, what are you thinking of, right now?
- It must be completely controlled by you. I did not have control over the audience reaction. An intention to get someone to behave differently is not controlled by you. It won’t work.
- If your intention is of the "global proportion", pare it down into manageable "nuggets." As you create these "nuggets" make a note of specific, sensory based "markers". What will you see, hear, and feel, when you complete each "nugget"? After completing each nugget, give your self a little Hi-Five celebration to keep you motivated. That’s it for today.
Have a great day in whatever your adventure.
To Life! To Success!